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Cooperative Response to Holiday Schedule Discussion
Holiday schedule negotiations are an area where a cooperative tone can actually produce better outcomes for your children than a firm or adversarial one. Here's how to approach it constructively.
"I was hoping we could talk about Thanksgiving. My family reunion is that week and it would mean a lot to have the kids."
"I understand the reunion is important. I'm open to discussing Thanksgiving. What if we alternate years — you take Thanksgiving this year and I take it next? That way both families get consistent time. Let me know your thoughts and we can confirm in writing."
Why This Response Works
This response acknowledges the co-parent's feelings, proposes a fair and predictable solution, and moves the conversation forward. Alternating holidays is widely recognized as fair and courts often suggest it.
What to Avoid
Avoid immediately saying no or making the co-parent feel their family relationships don't matter. The children benefit from relationships with both extended families.
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